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How To Be A Better Person with Kate Hanley




Start your day with one simple thing you can do in the next 24 hours to be your better self--not so you can be a perfect person. Or even a good person! Just... better. I wrote the book "How to Be a Better Person" after "be a better person" topped the list of most popular New Year's resolutions for the first time ever. This podcast builds on the ideas in that book and is intended to be like the little angel on your shoulder, providing a counter narrative to the negative thoughts and impulses that are floating around both out there and inside your own head. My mission is two-fold: to help you keep growing, and to inspire you to use your power for good. Sign up for the podcast newsletter for a little goodness in your inbox on (most) Sunday mornings! .

00:10:22 2022-09-29
It’s come to this, I’m afraid. I’m currently obsessed with a household appliance. A vacuum cleaner, to be exact. But I have never vacuumed so much in my life, and certainly never had fun while I was doing it. Come hear what happened when I showed it...
00:13:58 2022-09-28
Why is it that your first cup of coffee or tea is so perfect that you want another one, but the second one is never as good?  I’m a tea drinker and I was plagued by trying to find a way to have the right amount of tea at the right strength and temperat...
00:14:18 2022-09-27
Are you always on the lookout for things that will help you sleep more–especially ones that don’t require a prescription, aren’t habit forming, and don’t make you wake up feeling groggy? Me too. And I recently found one that works so well, I’m c...
00:14:53 2022-09-26
This week, I’m doing something new–sharing the handful of things right now that I am loving so much that I find myself talking about them with friends and family. So I figured, why not share them with you, too?  Today’s current obsession is a show...
00:13:21 2022-09-23
We’ve all been there–we had the whole day open to do as we pleased, and we had all these things we wanted to get done, but by the time 5 oclock rolls around, we haven’t done squat.  Today’s episode is about how to avoid frittering away the day. ...
00:12:49 2022-09-22
The dumb little things you have to do repeatedly can eat up your time and drag your energy down. Since this week is all about ways to take better care of the intersection of time, energy, and happiness, finding solutions for these minor aggravations is th...
00:26:25 2022-09-21
Today I’m talking with Dr. Cassie Holmes, professor at UCLA’s Anderson School of Management, social psychologist who researches the intersection of time and happiness, and who teaches a wildly popular MBA class on how to change the way you think about...
00:11:35 2022-09-20
When you’re cracking open your planner, or opening up your digital calendar (I use both)--here’s what we tend to do: put in the things we have to do first. Things like commute, work, have this meeting or this appointment. And then we try to squeeze in...
00:12:41 2022-09-19
Time isn’t just this tangible thing that you can parcel out and have it behave in predictable ways. So let’s stop trying to make it our b-i-t-c-h, whaddya say?  The thing is, when you are feeling good and in a groove, mentally, physically, and spirit...
00:12:27 2022-09-16
A big reason we make plans is to stave off stress–if you know what’s happening when, it gives you a feeling of control and helps you know that you’re doing the things that you need and want to do. And there’s a certain type of planning can also ma...
00:12:02 2022-09-15
If planning is so great–and because I’m devoting a week of episodes to it, I think it’s clear that I do believe in the power of planning–what do you do when plans change? Does that mean all your effort is wasted?  That’s what we’re talking ab...
00:24:14 2022-09-14
Today, I'm interviewing planning expert Sarah Hart-Unger, host of the Best Laid Plans podcast. A self-described "compulsive list maker and life planner," Sarah's planning prowess has been honed through experience. In addition to Best Laid Plans, Sarah is ...
00:10:58 2022-09-13
As great as planning is, it’s important to give yourself the space of having no plans on a regular basis.  John Lennon said life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans–planning for no plans means you’re just giving yourself some spac...
00:13:25 2022-09-12
This week I’m sharing ways to make planning less stressful and more happy-making.  Today’s big idea is that there’s a type of planning that most of us don’t even think to make room for on our calendars, but that can help us do our best thinking a...
00:13:12 2022-09-09
Insomnia tends to follow two basic patterns–difficulty getting to sleep, and difficulty staying asleep. Today’s episode is for the folks in the second camp, who wake up in the middle of the night and have a hard time getting back to sleep.  I have se...
00:09:58 2022-09-08
Today’s episode is for anyone who’s insomnia style of choice is to wake up in the middle of the night and have problems getting back to sleep.  I have really interesting and, ultimately, good news for you. Humans have only been sleeping straight thro...
00:12:34 2022-09-07
I recently discovered something that helps me sleep better every time and it’s something you don’t often hear about. And that is turning off–or moving–your WiFi router before you go to bed. Call me crazy if you must, but I swear that WiFi keeps me...
00:14:08 2022-09-06
A good night’s sleep can feel elusive when you’re in the grip of insomnia. There are some very fundamental things that can you can do before bed that will help change your sleep story and get the rest you’re craving. Come learn both the what and the...
00:12:16 2022-09-05
All your basic advice on sleeping better starts with developing a bedtime routine, which is a great thing to have (and one I talk about on tomorrow’s episode). BUT, good sleep starts much earlier in the day than bedtime. In fact, it starts as soon as yo...
00:12:03 2022-09-02
One criteria I had for this week’s grab-and-go breakfasts is that they do not involve dirtying a pan during the morning hustle. Which rules out eggs, right? Wrong. This is a cooking method for ‘fried’ eggs popularized by Mark Bittman that is going t...
00:12:01 2022-09-01
You probably are already aware of parfaits as a breakfast option. But did you know that you can pack them to go??? I’ve got a story, plus how to make them delicious without being a total sugar bomb, as, let’s face it, most parfaits are.  What’s you...
00:20:26 2022-08-31
Mornings are hectic. People are grumpy. And there’s breakfast to be had. Today I’m interviewing Charity Mathews of Foodlets.com and author of numerous cookbooks for kids about her best tips for making breakfast drama-free. (She shares a recipe that in...
00:11:48 2022-08-30
I admit I discovered chia pudding when I was on the ketogenic diet a few years ago and needed something to fill the dessert void. But chia pudding also makes an awesome breakfast, tastes kind of like rice pudding (and if you’re not into that texture, I...
00:14:15 2022-08-29
My kids are starting school today. My new highschooler needs to be ready for the bus at 7am (WHY?). And my mind has been whirling on what we can do about making breakfast easier while still providing plenty of fuel for all the thinking and learning and so...
00:10:06 2022-08-26
We’ve all got stuff in our closet that we don’t wear, don’t like, maybe don’t even remember how it came to be ours. It might be tempting to just toss it into a dumpster and be done with it, or stick it in a bunch of trash bags and haul it to the l...
00:13:05 2022-08-25
Sure it’s fun to get a bargain when you’re clothes shopping, but the fashion industry–particularly fast fashion–is really tough on the environment. Today I’m sharing an environmentally friendly way to get great clothes for cheap (that DOESN’T ...
00:12:18 2022-08-24
Once hailed as the material of the future, plastic has become a real problem for the planet--it uses fossil fuels to make, burning it or letting it decompose releases a lot of chemicals into the environment, and recycling it doesn't seem to be making much...
00:12:04 2022-08-23
What do you do when you’re sick of what you’ve been wearing. OR, you’ve got something coming up where you want to look sharp. You go shopping, right!? Whee!! Well, yes, but you don’t need to leave the house to shop at the most environmentally sust...
00:13:39 2022-08-22
Ever get home from a shopping trip and feel like you got swept up in the moment and you’re not really going to wear what you bought? Or opened a drawer or your closet and saw stuff in there still with tags on it, and felt guilty about wasting money? I...
00:10:06 2022-08-19
Is there someone in particular, or maybe even a group of people you’ve lost touch with in the last couple years? If yes, it makes sense–a global pandemic can really put a damper on your social activities! This week I’m talking about taking stock of...
00:13:06 2022-08-18
How often do you think about how your life has been going up to this point? Not very often, right? I’ve got an exercise for you today that can help you get a little objectivity and clarity on who you are and what you’ve done that’s also just a fun t...
00:12:18 2022-08-17
So maybe there’s something on your goal list for 2022 that you haven’t been doing–something like exercise, or saving more, or marketing your business or even posting on social media. You’re just not doing it.  Today I’m sharing something that ...
00:12:04 2022-08-16
As we ponder what we want to do differently in the months to come, I’ve got a suggestion that will help us all take our stress levels down. Can we all just be cool with our electronic communications taking a little longer? This is my prayer (and it shou...
00:13:39 2022-08-15
Now that we’re three years into the pandemic–and in the last stages of summer when you can feel fall getting ready to come swinging in like Miley Cyrus on her wrecking ball–we’re in a collective contemplative moment. In today’s episode I’ll ta...
00:10:12 2022-08-12
We all need inspiration in this life and one place I get mine is from my podcast crush–Make Your Damn Bed, a short daily podcast from Chicago-based comedian Julie Merica.  Today I’m sharing one of my all-time favorite Make Your Damn Bed episodes, abo...
00:12:02 2022-08-11
I’ve got a podcast crush–a show that I love that I think you will too. It’s Make Your Damn Bed, from Chicago-based comedian Julie Merica, who is just a peach of a human–plus, funny!--and who also offers short daily episodes to help you look for th...
00:22:32 2022-08-10
Having a sense of community and a feeling of belonging to where you live is so important–both to a life well lived and your overall wellbeing. Yet, at this stage in the pandemic, so many people are at least considering how and even where they want to li...
00:15:04 2022-08-09
There’s something you might be doing every night without even thinking about it that could be negatively impacting your neighbors, your community, and the environment. It’s flicking a switch and turning an outside light on. Which doesn’t seem like t...
00:13:18 2022-08-08
Feeling connected to other people feels nice, but can it actually improve your health? Yes it can, and there’s one particular hormone that makes that statement true, and that’s oxytocin, aka the love hormone, which I’m sharing some cool factoids abo...
00:15:06 2022-08-05
Let’s just say that when you’re just out and about, running errands and minding your business, an angry driver honks at you, yells at you, and flips you off. And, your kid is in the car with you. What do you do?  Well, I’ll share what NOT to do in...
00:16:16 2022-08-04
This summer I’ve been re-watching the show “Better Things,” with Pamela Adlon, on Hulu, and I I love it for its lessons in reality, and unreality, and how messy motherhood and modern life and also, how despite it all, there are so many moments of tr...
00:12:35 2022-08-03
Summer + reading = two of my most favorite words. Today I’m sharing the 2 memoirs I read in various summery locations that I just capital-L Loved: Easy Beauty, Chloe Cooper Jones Punch Me Up to the Gods, Brian Broome “Fearing For His Life” – Chl...
00:12:48 2022-08-02
Need ideas for what to read this summer, whether you’re hitting the beach or just chilling in bed? I’ve got 4 suggestions for you–all ones I read while I was on vacation and loved. Today I’m talking about the two novels I read, one’s romance, o...
00:16:54 2022-08-01
What if there was money out there somewhere that belonged to you but you didn’t know it was there? Wouldn’t it be cool if there were a search engine where you could type in your name and see if there were any old paychecks that never made their way to...
00:11:15 2022-07-29
Have you ever gotten home from vacation and felt… sad? Out of it? Just not like yourself? That very real phenomenon is what we’re talking about today. Both why it happens, and what you can do about it.  This episode sponsored by: Zapier.com AthleticG...
00:11:17 2022-07-28
When you think of vacation, you think of something positive–fun, adventure, relaxation, being carefree. And yes all those things can happen. But sometimes, you can also feel a little sad, displaced, or just…wonky…when you’re on holiday. I call ‘...
00:21:40 2022-07-27
Let’s talk one of the most important things about vacation: What book–or books–to read. I mean, vacation time is so precious, you don’t want to be stuck with a book that you’re just not feeling! To help you choose your vacation reading material,...
00:14:01 2022-07-26
Vacation is fun to think about, but less fun to pack for. I just got back from our first ever two-week vacation and feel, for the first time, that I really nailed the packing. So I’m sharing the packing strategy I used with you! Here are those categorie...
00:13:52 2022-07-25
Raise your hand if you’ve ever gotten home from a vacation and felt like you needed to check into a detox facility. Or, as the saying goes, you needed a vacation to recover from your vacation. Today, we’re talking about how to have plenty of fun when ...
00:11:08 2022-07-22
[Note–this is a replay episode! So if you hear an out-of-date reference to COVID, that’s why. New episodes start again July 25.]  Seeing people’s perfectly coiffed selves and photoshoot-ready homes on social media fuels our perfectionism and causes...
00:09:51 2022-07-21
[Note–this is a replay episode! So if you hear an out-of-date reference to COVID, that’s why. New episodes start again July 25.]  We all have things about ourselves that we’re not proud of. Maybe we even feel ashamed of. Could be big, little, or so...
00:21:37 2022-07-20
[Note–this is a replay episode! So if you hear an out-of-date reference to COVID, that’s why. New episodes start again July 25.]  As honorable as it is to care about being a better person and to give a shit about bringing your best and making a diffe...
00:11:24 2022-07-19
[Note–this is a replay episode! So if you hear an out-of-date reference to COVID, that’s why. New episodes start again July 25.]  Perfectionism isn’t just the type A, dot every i and cross every T form personality that a lot of people associate wit...
00:11:47 2022-07-18
[Note–this is a replay episode! So if you hear an out-of-date reference to COVID, that’s why. New episodes start again July 25.] Perfectionism is an understandable and natural response to an increasingly uncertain world. It’s a coping mechanism that...
00:11:01 2022-07-15
[Note–this is a replay episode! So if you hear an out-of-date reference to COVID, that’s why. New episodes start again July 25.]  One huge obstacle to creativity is your inner critic, which is a negative commentary that’s coming from inside your he...
00:12:11 2022-07-14
[Note–this is a replay episode! So if you hear an out-of-date reference to COVID, that’s why. New episodes start again July 25.]  Here are some tried and true ways to get into that state where inspiration is rushing in to meet you, like Kermit and Mi...
00:19:16 2022-07-13
[Note–this is a replay episode! So if you hear an out-of-date reference to COVID, that’s why. New episodes start again July 25.]  So, HOW do you incorporate creativity into a pretty gosh darn busy life? Like, really… let’s talk nuts and bolts.  ...
00:11:26 2022-07-12
[Note–this is a replay episode! So if you hear an out-of-date reference to COVID, that’s why. New episodes start again July 25.]  Maybe creativity isn’t something that you feel you have. Or maybe it feels elusive. I mean, of course–no one feels c...
00:12:07 2022-07-11
[Note–this is a replay episode! So if you hear an out-of-date reference to COVID, that’s why. New episodes start again July 25.]  Sure, creative pursuits are fun but are they actually good for you? Oh my goodness yes–in this episode we cover the ma...
00:10:51 2022-07-08
There’s one tried and true way of earning more money that’s practically the American way – starting a side hustle. What do you need to think about before you decide to go for it? So that it doesn’t become just another way that you over-work yourse...
00:12:21 2022-07-07
It may feel like the only way to earn more money is to work more hours but that’s a false belief. It’s also possible to get paid for things that are intangible, like connections, and to get paid multiple times for work that you do once. Today we’re ...
00:25:53 2022-07-06
Perhaps the most obvious way to earn more money–which is the subject of all the episodes here on How to Be a Better Person this week–is to get a raise at work. And yet, according to a Payscale survey, 60% of Americans have never asked for a raise. Tod...
00:16:08 2022-07-05
We all have stuff we don’t use, wear, or even like. We have so much stuff it can’t even fit in our house: 38 percent of all Americans have a self-storage unit. Today we’re talking about how to turn that stuff into cash. Today I’m going to share ho...
00:15:23 2022-07-04
Hey, happy Fourth of July!!  Let’s get some financial freedom happening around here, whaddyasay?  I’m covering two ways you can get the money you already have, or are already spending, to help you earn more money with either a high-yield savings acc...
00:09:53 2022-07-01
There are things you should NOT cut your spending on even though prices have risen. I can't tell you exactly what those things are, but I CAN help you figure it out for yourself. Judge me if you will, but one of my non-negotiables is a cleaning person--it...
00:10:01 2022-06-30
Spending money on new stuff is sometimes necessary but it’s not always required–especially when you start thinking creatively about what you already have. Turning up your ingenuity muscles is a fun and gratifying way to help yourself spend less–and ...
00:20:59 2022-06-29
Prices are rising, maybe a recession is looming. What are some practical ways to protect your financial health? That's what we're talking about today, when I'm interviewing Emma Johnson, author of The Kickass Single Mom and the 30-Day Kickass Single Mom...
00:13:01 2022-06-28
Spending money on things you don’t use, need, like or even realize you’re spending is like trying to fetch water with a colander–or like your bank account has sprung a leak. Today we’re talking about how to plug up the little–or maybe big–leak...
00:11:09 2022-06-27
How can you spend what you need to spend and still keep yourself financially healthy in uncertain times? It starts with your mindset, and that’s what we’re talking about today–a positive way to think about spending less. It’s part of two weeks of ...
00:10:29 2022-06-24
Our collective culture has always prized certain body types and sizes over others. We reinforce it in the paintings, photos, television shows, movies and social media posts that we watch. They say representation matters, because when you see those same im...
00:10:37 2022-06-23
It’s easy to be critical of your body when you’re only thinking about how it looks. When you start engaging the ole bod in a dialogue and hearing what it has to say, it helps deepen your relationship with and respect for it. You're not gonna talk sma...
00:24:15 2022-06-22
I’m super excited about today’s episode because it’s a topic I’ve been really feeling into lately, both as a woman who recently got my menopause wings (I don't call menopause "The Thickening" for nothing), and as the mother of two young teens who ...
00:10:07 2022-06-21
Body acceptance is something that’s pretty internal. It comes from changing how you think and feel, and while I LOVE talking about the mind component of any change, sometimes you just want to know what to DO differently.  Today I’m sharing something ...
00:11:42 2022-06-20
After we’ve all been cooped up with the pandemic, a lot of us are feeling like we’re emerging with a different body than we went in with thanks to all kinds of reasons, from stress eating to working at home where the fridge is always right there. AND,...
00:10:38 2022-06-17
Today we’re talking about a power snack that you might be thinking that, yeah, it’s really tasty, but it’s not actually healthy, right?  This snack of mystery that we’re breaking down today is popcorn. It’s part of a week of episodes on easy wa...
00:11:53 2022-06-16
What’s a snack that you can pre-cook in large quantities, will stay fresh in the fridge for a long time, you can eat on its own or dip into something you probably already have in your fridge to make it taste completely different and new?  It’s the hu...
00:10:05 2022-06-15
Today’s power snack is more of a category than a particular snack, but that just means it comes with tons of options so you won’t get sick of it any time soon, and it is: SEEDS.  Why seeds? As the baby of a tree or a plant, they contain everything a ...
00:11:38 2022-06-14
Today, on this week of episodes focusing on power snacks that are equal parts easy, delicious and nutritious, I’m talking about a couple of snacks that are especially great for those times you’re not crazy hungry but you’re more looking for a party ...
00:13:07 2022-06-13
After last week’s episodes on getting involved in the effort to curb gun violence, I felt like we could all use a subject that was a little less… intense. (Myself included.) You know, a little palate cleanser. And that subject, is snacks. Specifically...
00:12:55 2022-06-10
You know social media is a fun way to stay in touch with friends, promote your offerings if you’re a business owner, and follow your favorite influencers. But can it also be a powerful tool for creating change? Why yes, yes it can. That’s what we’re...
00:12:28 2022-06-09
If you really want to do something to help change a big issue but your knees are knocking a little bit, or a lot, I get it. The thought of attending a march, or making calls to your fellow citizens, or knocking on doors can be a little–or a lot–intimi...
00:21:29 2022-06-08
There’s no two ways about it–gun violence in America is a public health problem. Gun violence kills over 110 Americans every single day, and is now the number one cause of death in children. It’s a huge problem that we owe it to our children to solv...
00:10:42 2022-06-07
Just a warning, I’m talking about upsetting subjects in this episode, such as gun violence, so if you’re listening with kids around, or you’re in a place where you need to take care of yourself and what you’re exposed to, come back tomorrow, when ...
00:12:40 2022-06-06
Just a heads up that the episodes this week were inspired by the upset so many of us, myself included, felt after the events in Uvalde, Texas and Buffalo, New York. So if you’re listening with kids around, or you’re in a tender place, take care while ...
00:15:04 2022-06-03
There is a unique kind of control that a lot of mothers–myself included–display. It's called maternal gatekeeping, where we think no one else (including our partners in parenting) is as good a caretaker as we are. And while it’s understandable why w...
00:11:35 2022-06-02
Sometimes there are things that you feel like you've let go, or that you should have let go already, when in truth it still feels like they’re clinging to you, like cigarette smoke gets in your hair and you can smell it the next morning, if you’re old...
00:20:24 2022-06-01
If anyone’s ever told you to let something go, you may have thought about telling them where they can stick it; or you may have thought–I wish I could! I don’t know how.  Today I’m interviewing Nina Purewal, co-author of the international bestsel...
00:10:37 2022-05-31
Expectations are a real bugger. They make us feel like if things don't happen the way we think they will, that there's something wrong with us. But of course, things rarely happen the way we think they will. So how can we start to let those buggers go? Es...
00:10:37 2022-05-30
"You've got to let it go." It's something we're told, and say to others, all the time. But it. Ain't. Easy! This week we're talking about how to really let go of all kinds of stuff. Including, today, stale old ideas. Because if being a better person is im...
00:09:46 2022-05-27
We each have our own unique pace–some of us are hares, and naturally move quickly, while others of us are more tortoises, and we move a little bit more slowly and just tend to have less urgency. And sometimes we’re a mash-up of the two–I call those ...
00:09:58 2022-05-26
You can do all the careful planning you want, and set goals for your time. But you can still get distracted and fritter the time you so thoughtfully planned away faster than rice through a colander. Today, I’m sharing 5 ways to automate some guardrails ...
00:24:02 2022-05-25
Do you regularly feel like there just aren't enough hours in the day? That feeling has a technical term--it's called 'time poverty,' and it's something we're going to learn how to reduce in today's episode. I'm talking with Ashley Whillans, assistant prof...
00:11:33 2022-05-24
It’s really common to pride yourself on your ability to get things done. We live in a capitalist society, after all, where productivity and output are kings. BUT, today I’m advocating a switch from letting your to-do list dictate how you spend your ti...
00:12:52 2022-05-23
How often do you think something along the lines of, “there just aren’t enough hours in the day”? Well, good news, today I’m sharing a really powerful tool for finding more time for the things you value and enjoy–even, especially if you have a b...
00:09:19 2022-05-20
I’m sharing ways that committing to a creative endeavor – including, but not limited to, hosting a podcast – is like a personal development seminar by sharing the specific ways producing over 700 episodes of this podcast has helped me grow as a pers...
00:13:37 2022-05-19
Are you ready to discover some new podcasts? Or are you thinking about starting your own podcast? Either way, you’re in the right place, because I’ve got some resources to share with you today! Here are your links: Earbuds Podcast Collective Good Pod...
00:20:05 2022-05-18
Why are podcasts such a big thing? And can listening to them–and/or creating them–make you a better person? These questions are what we’re going to dig into today, and so much more (like how to find new podcasts to listen to and what to think about ...
00:13:05 2022-05-17
How do you come up with ideas regularly? Not just any ideas, but solid ideas, lots of ‘em, and on a schedule? That is exactly the lesson I have been learning and integrating since starting this podcast in the fall of 2019, and what I’ve learned about ...
00:13:23 2022-05-16
Why does someone decide to start a podcast? And why does that person stay committed once the novelty has worn off? I’m answering both of those questions today, as part of a week of episodes on the act and art of podcasting itself. Learn more about your ...
00:12:21 2022-05-13
There are two really hard parts of building a regular movement habit–starting it, and sticking with it. Today, we’re talking about how to keep going with it once you’ve broken the seal, and how to get back on track when you inevitably fall off. Lear...
00:10:31 2022-05-12
OK, so you’re convinced that it’s time for you to move more, if only you can find the time. That’s what you’ll learn how to do in today’s episode. So today I’m sharing some helpful questions to ask yourself that can help move you from thinkin...
00:22:33 2022-05-11
Today I’m talking with Forrest Kolaski, my personal trainer, whom I’ve been working out with for about four years, for his perspective on how to stop thinking that you should be getting more exercise and start actually doing it. Learn more about your ...
00:12:49 2022-05-10
Today I’m taking aim at the idea that in order for exercise to count, you have to be wearing spandex and you have to break a sweat, and I’m doing it by shining a light on the life-changing magic of a daily walk. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit...
00:12:55 2022-05-09
Have you gotten out of the habit of exercising and can’t seem to get motivated to moving again? Well today’s episode can help, because I’m sharing 6 ways that exercise boosts your health that go far, FAR beyond burning calories–which is where I th...
00:11:08 2022-05-06
A key part of focused attention is shutting out anything that isn’t what you’re choosing to focus on. So it’s only natural that at any given time, there are many things that you aren’t paying attention to. But sometimes, important stuff gets lumpe...
00:12:07 2022-05-05
You know those moments when your ability to pay attention to any one thing drops out and you feel overwhelmed by everything and it’s just all too much? Today, I’ve got something to help you with that. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone....
00:23:15 2022-05-04
Today I'm talking with Dr. Michelle Braun, neuropsychologist and author of High Octane Brain, about what parts of the brain are responsible for attention, the difference between attention and focus, the relationship between time and attention, and how to ...
00:12:46 2022-05-03
There are two kinds of attention--one that we tend to prioritize (and wish we were better at), and one that we tend to judge as bad (or have been told is bad by teachers, parents, and bosses). You need both, because they feed each other. Come find out wha...
00:08:22 2022-05-02
What is attention, really? Is it the ability to take in information, or get work done? Well, yes, but it’s so much more than that. And that’s what we’re going to dive into today, in this introduction to a week’s worth of episodes on attention. Lea...
00:09:31 2022-04-29
Do you ever wonder why you do the things you do? Or why you don’t do the things you don’t do? Your subconscious knows quite a lot about what your unwritten rules (that I call pink elephants--more on that in the episode) are, but you have to do a littl...
00:08:48 2022-04-28
When I surveyed listeners, I asked them what they struggled with when it came to being a better person. And so many of them said people-pleasing. Let's talk about how to stop giving a shit about whether other people are happy with you or not. Hahaha, not ...
00:19:51 2022-04-27
Today I’m interviewing Suzanne Kingsbury, founder of Gateless Writing, a method of teaching the art and craft of writing that's designed to get you past the gatekeeper of your inner critic (AKA the source of all those judgments you secretly make about ...
00:09:38 2022-04-26
I bet there are all kinds of areas of your life that may be ready for a re-boot. Your home, your relationships, your diet, your exercise routine, your car, your closet… I mean, phew! It’s a lot. A way to get yourself into motion is to figure out where...
00:10:37 2022-04-25
If you’re not taking stock of the things you tell yourself on the regular, guess what--you’re going to make the same choices that led you to feeling like you needed that detox and that de-cluttering in the first place. Learn more about your ad choices...
00:11:01 2022-04-22
What’s one of the most radical, life-affirming, helpful things you can do on any given day? That’s what we’re talking about today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
00:11:02 2022-04-21
It can be hard to feel connected to the magic of the world in the midst of your daily life, but today’s topic can help you have a tangible experience of it. AND it can teach you how to make positive changes in your life, too! Learn more about your ad ch...
00:22:49 2022-04-20
Today I'm talking with Emily Murphy. Emily is a gardener who is currently rewilding her yard in Northern California. She's also the author of the new book Grow Now, which is beautiful and inspiring and really gets you pumped about thinking about what you'...
00:11:36 2022-04-19
Today I’m coming to you with some motivation for getting out of your house and going outside so that Mother Nature can pull you a little closer and give you the hug you didn’t even know you needed. One's a really cool natural phenomenon that doesn't h...
00:10:09 2022-04-18
What if there were something that wasn’t a prescription drug that could help you focus better? Well, there is, and it’s completely free with no side effects. It’s nature. I talk you through some of the science that suggests that being in nature can ...
00:10:48 2022-04-15
COVID brought a heaping helping of stress and uncertainty--two things that can strain even the strongest relationships. It also came with a LOT of together time. Like, way more together time than any couple or throuple or whatever your jam is really ever ...
00:12:14 2022-04-14
There’s one thing that I wish I could wave my magic wand and everyone would stop doing in their relationships, and that is keeping score.  I get that women typically do way more of the emotional and the household labor and that it needs to end. BUT, ke...
00:20:54 2022-04-13
We all know that the initial rush of a new relationship wanes. But does that mean that if you're in a long-term relationship your sex life has no choice but to fizzle out? No. Today's guest is Dr. Stephen Snyder, author of Love Worth Making and a sex ther...
00:08:58 2022-04-12
I’m coming to you today with a tip on how to keep your relationship strong even when there’s been some disturbance in the force. There’s a key to making sure that your fights end positively, and it’s something I was never taught–and that I think...
00:10:38 2022-04-11
What if the things that your partner does that drive you crazy suddenly didn’t annoy you so much anymore? Because we all have things about our partner that make us nuts. Today’s big idea is that the flip side of the things that initially draw you to s...
00:09:42 2022-04-08
Listen, full confession, I’m not a coffee drinker. I just don’t like the way it tastes and I’m convinced it’s genetic because my dad doesn’t like it either. But I’m not here to bash coffee. If you drink it, keep drinking it! It has a lot of he...
00:09:26 2022-04-07
Sunlight is basically a healing tonic for your physiology. Yes, you can overdo it and get sunburned, but that’s no reason to avoid this omnipresent part of life that is vital nourishment for your eyes, brain, and entire embodiment. Can't sleep? Immuni...
00:10:14 2022-04-06
Getting yourself into a truly relaxed state is like taking your car in for a tune-up and having an amazing therapy session all in one great-feeling package. The only kicker is, it takes a little effort. You’re not just going to magically achieve a physi...
00:09:34 2022-04-05
Cuddling or snuggling does more than just feel nice--it bathes your cells in oxytocin, the so-called love hormone that does incredible things for your body. And that also, sadly, declines with aging. Here's a pep talk for making time for physical contact,...
00:08:46 2022-04-04
Which is cleaner--indoor air, or outdoor air? The answer might surprise you. (It surprised me!) After I share with you why the answer is what it is, I think you'll be excited to remedy the situation--and breathe in the benefits. Learn more about your ad c...
00:11:25 2022-04-01
So very many of us have experienced something that makes us feel ashamed. Something that we’re scared that if people knew the truth about, we would be judged and shunned for. And that shame can worm its way into your subconscious and make you feel lik...
00:10:24 2022-03-31
It feels so awesome when you adopt a new healthy habit--whether that's cleaning up your diet, moving our body more, meditating, what have you. And it feels equally as bad when you let that habit slide. Which, we all do. Does it mean we suck? Just aren't m...
00:16:59 2022-03-30
Whether you’re telling a little fib, or blatantly telling someone something that isn’t true, or even NOT telling someone something that IS true, dishonesty is often one of those things that triggers a visit from the “am I a bad person?” thought pa...
00:10:58 2022-03-29
There are thousands of articles, etiquette experts, friends, and family members who will tell you that being late is disrespectful--in other words, something that contributes to making you a bad person. I ask: Is it though? In today's replay episode (orig...
00:09:56 2022-03-28
I'm taking a week off from producing new content and replaying one of my favorite series of last year, where I flipped things around and, instead of talking about being a better person, took a look at the things we ALL sometimes do that can leave us wond...
00:10:43 2022-03-25
Doubt is something that is always going to crop up from time to time. And when those doubts come in–well, it can feel like torture. It’s an open invitation for your inner critic to go hog wild. And it can also feel like a sign that you ought to stop. ...
00:08:27 2022-03-24
Your inner wisdom lives in your body, whether you call it a feeling in your bones or a gut feeling or something you know all the way down to your toes. The more we learn about the gut the more science recognizes it as a second brain, with more than 100 mi...
00:24:15 2022-03-23
Today I'm interviewing award winning book coach Lisa Tener. Why am I interviewing a book coach during Trust Yourself week? Well, a lot of people think writing a book is strictly an intellectual pursuit, but it's also so much about being able to access you...
00:09:49 2022-03-22
There are two basic forces in the world – fear, and love. And with our negativity bias–the tendency of our brains to focus more on things that didn’t work out or that cause pain than on the things that go well and lift us up–we place way too much...
00:09:56 2022-03-21
Every single one of us has a wise part of ourselves that always has our best interests at heart and that can process all kinds of information and feelings and sensation that our thinking mind can only barely start to perceive. That wise part is your intui...
00:09:31 2022-03-18
Today’s big idea is that there is a balance that you’ve got to strike in order to improve your relationship to life admin.  And that is to make peace with the fact that while the human brain loves to close open loops–and cross things off the to-do ...
00:09:26 2022-03-17
Today’s big is actually three ideas for making life admin less overwhelming. These are mindset shifts that will help you think about adulting differently--a key step in making it all feel a little less relentless. Contribute your tips and successes to ...
00:22:28 2022-03-16
Frankly, life admin just makes me want to lie down. Which is why I’m excited to be interviewing my friend, Jessica Tudos, a mindful organizer based in Toronto whom I always love talking to about how to get a grip on the many facets of life while still r...
00:09:06 2022-03-15
Scheduling is one of my VERY LEAST favorite life admin tasks. Am I the only one with an allergy to planning for something that's not related to having fun? Today’s big idea is my very best tip to make sure that you have the majority of the appointments ...
00:11:43 2022-03-14
This week on the podcast I’m talking about how to take better care of all the details of life–making appointments, paying bills, prepping your taxes, keeping your paperwork up to date, your car maintenanced, your communication handled, etc., etc., etc...
00:07:25 2022-03-11
Some people are more empathetic and/or sensitive and so they get an intuitive read on other people’s energy without a lot of conscious effort. But everyone can get better at reading other people’s energy with a little practice. In this episode, I shar...
00:09:59 2022-03-10
Sadly, and of course, there are some things in life that will bring your energy down. Some of these things come in from the outside, generally from other people, and others generate from within your own mind. Interestingly enough, more come from within th...
00:09:15 2022-03-09
Your energy isn't set it and forget it. There are simple things you can do to raise it up. Here are my favorite 8 ways--which one will you try so you can conduct your own energy experiment? Enjoying these episodes? Leave me a tip! All proceeds are used to...
00:08:05 2022-03-08
Today’s big idea is that figuring out what raises your energy and what squashes it is a crucial part of being able to take care of yourself and your overall energy. I call it doing an energy audit, which sounds very official, doesn’t it? Like someone...
00:11:29 2022-03-07
Most people when they think of energy as something that a person has, they’re thinking about stamina or strength. Or what my grandmother used to call ‘pep’. And if you have a lot of it, you’re like the Energizer bunny, and if you don’t, you need...
00:10:11 2022-03-04
Since 1970, North America has lost nearly 3 billion birds. 3 billion!! This is a problem because birds do so many important things – they eat pests, pollinate plants, disperse seeds, and protect ecosystems. They’re also direct descendants of the dinos...
00:09:56 2022-03-03
A category of animals that really needs our support is pollinators–the butterflies, bees, hummingbirds, moths and even bats—that spread pollen from plant to plant and make it so those plants can flower and fruit.  Approximately 35% of our food crops ...
00:16:43 2022-03-02
For Jodi Helmer, it all started by adopting a rescue dog. That led to fostering other dogs in order to help them get adopted. That led to a move to the country in order to have more space. That led to taking in one very naughty donkey who was running out ...
00:08:10 2022-03-01
Maybe your kid is begging you for a pet but it's not in the cards. Maybe you really want a pet but the landlord doesn't allow it. Maybe you're just not sure. Luckily, there are many ways to develop loving bonds with animals that don't require becoming a p...
00:09:37 2022-02-28
Why am I talking about animals on a show about being a better person? Animals can really bring out our better instincts and give us an opportunity to get out of our own heads, thinking about our own problems. Plus, they're cute. And I think late winter is...
00:07:21 2022-02-25
You may not think that you’re making negative assumptions about other people–after all, most of us know that to assume makes an “ass” out of “u” and “me. But, trust me, your brain is filling in a lot of blanks about the people you encounter ...
00:06:43 2022-02-24
Saying thank you is about more than being polite--it's about training yourself to look for the good, even in situations that are otherwise neutral or even negative. It helps you re-wire your brain, which is trained to look for and remember the bad. Enjoyi...
00:07:35 2022-02-23
Say you’re checking out at the grocery store, or picking up books from the library, or getting dinner delivered, or actually eating out in a restaurant. It’s pretty automatic to say, “how are you?” to the person who is helping you. And then they s...
00:07:19 2022-02-22
When you’re in a hurry it’s easy to wish everyone would just get out of your way already. You know, it’s a real “me first” state of mind. “Please step to the side so that I may get to my very important destination!”  Today's quick hit can h...
00:08:17 2022-02-21
This week I’m sharing really quick, concrete things you can do to act on the desire to be a better person. I love to talk about deeper, bigger stuff, and figuring out how to make long-lasting changes. But sometimes, you just need a quick hit. That’s w...
00:10:04 2022-02-18
Laziness gets completely frowned upon in our productivity focused society. But you could have a very good reason to be feeling–or being perceived–as lazy. AND that feeling of not wanting to do anything–which, I fully admit, I have been feeling so fr...
00:07:25 2022-02-17
Your network isn’t some wall of trophies that you can proudly point to. It’s your support system--the net beneath your trapeze AND the slingshot that can help launch you higher or in a different direction than you could go on your own. And most likel...
00:19:04 2022-02-16
Today I'm talking with Damon Brown, author of the brand new book Career Remix: Get the Gig You Want with the Skills You've Got about the things you should consider before you up and quit your job. Even if you’re NOT currently secretly–or not so secret...
00:10:46 2022-02-15
Something so very many of us has experienced during this pandemic is challenges to mental health. And in general, we've gotten a lot more open about sharing our mental health struggles with others. How does this impact our work lives? How can we make spac...
00:08:50 2022-02-14
This week on the podcast is all about re-imagining work. After all, like the rest of our lives, much of our work lives have been upended since the pandemic started. Whether that’s the physical location of where you’re doing your work, or how stressful...
00:06:53 2022-02-11
Wanting to help someone who’s in need of support is honorable. But what it ISN’T, is about you. You are not the solution for their problems, nor is it your full responsibility to solve anyone’s problems. I think this is another reason why we sometim...
00:08:38 2022-02-10
One of the beneficial roles we can play as someone’s friend or loved one is to notice them. Not judge them, or rate their appearance, but just take in their presence.  In this episode, I’ll share some common signs that someone might be having a hard ...
00:17:13 2022-02-09
There are so many people who run anxious, and you likely have many of them in your life. Maybe they are a family member or a dear friend. A lot of the things that we say to people when they’re in the throes of anxiety may be well-intentioned, but ultima...
00:08:32 2022-02-08
Here are three questions you can keep in your back pocket that will make it super easy to check in with someone. This way, you won’t be at a loss for words–which is a big reason why we may be tempted to stay away when someone we know or love is going ...
00:09:07 2022-02-07
This week on the podcast I’m talking about how to be there for the folks in your life who are going through it–whatever it may be. The blues, anxiety, stress, illness, family stuff are all normal parts of life and we all get by with a little help from...
00:10:01 2022-02-04
You don’t have to drag your butt to a museum in order to interact with artwork. You can do it from home in ways that maybe you never thought of or that you might think don’t count, but they DO! They absolutely do. And, bonus, they’re pandemic-friend...
00:08:03 2022-02-03
Today’s big idea is actually 7 ideas–I’m sharing 7 easy ways to read more. Including some cool ways to use audio books, and permission to do something that some people think makes them a bad person, or at least a bad reader. Learn more about your a...
00:19:45 2022-02-02
Today I’m talking to Becky Karush. Becky is the founder of Read to Me Literary Arts, where she hosts group writing salons–which I attend and am devoted to–and coaches writers individually. She is also the host of the wonderful Read to Me podcast. Be...
00:12:08 2022-02-01
Today I'm sharing the 5 books that I read in 2021 that I really feel helped me a better person because they helped me see something in a new way, or expanded my empathy toward others, or what have you. I loved these books! And am excited to share them wit...
00:08:27 2022-01-31
During this pandemic January, when the nights have been long and the news has been bleak, I’ve been extra aware that what so many of us turn to when times are hard is art. Whether that’s shows or movies, books, music, actual art work or another form o...
00:10:58 2022-01-28
Nothing says 'ahhh' like cracking a cold one or pouring a glass of wine. Or does it?? I’ve got three ways to help yourself switch into chill mode without having a drink--I'm thinking one of these will be a helpful alternative for you.  Learn more about...
00:09:19 2022-01-27
One of the main reasons we turn to alcohol is to help us let our hair down--to laugh a little more easily, to be a little more uninhibited, to be more fun. BUT, having a drink is not the only way to loosen up and have fun! Let’s talk about other ways to...
00:19:02 2022-01-26
In this re-broadcast, I interview Michelle Smith, a TEDx speaker, author, podcaster, mental health and addictions counselor and founder of Recovery is the New Black, about how to tell if your drinking has become unhelpful, or maybe even harmful. Come hea...
00:25:49 2022-01-25
In this re-airing of an interview I did with Sarah Kate of Some Good Clean Fun, we explore why alcohol is so heavily marketed to women, why drinking less is a rebellious choice in our society, and why alcohol is a feminist issue. Don't worry, we don't get...
00:13:35 2022-01-24
I'm taking a week off from new episodes this week and re-airing a series I did last summer on re-thinking drinking. It is, after all, Dry January--in other words, a natural time to be thinking about drinking less, or not at all. This week, let’s just se...
00:09:03 2022-01-21
You've heard the advice to put on your own oxygen mask first, and that you can't give from an empty cup (I've said this myself many times, including on this podcast). But I've been re-thinking this. Because, first of all, you don't have to have your shit ...
00:08:18 2022-01-20
Even though wanting to be of service seems like a noble idea, it’s pretty easy to have an attitude that makes you more of a pain in the butt than an actual source of help. Here are three ways of thinking that are going to block you from actually helpin...
00:16:20 2022-01-19
Today I’m talking with Rabbi Daniel Cohen, who serves at the largest modern orthodox synagogue in New England in Stamford, CT. He’s the author of "What Will They Say About You When You Are Gone? Cultivating a Life of Legacy." He has been a rabbi for o...
00:06:44 2022-01-18
There are SO many people and causes that are in need of help that it can be overwhelming, trying to decide how to give back without overextending yourself. If you get involved in every cause or try to help every person that needs it, it’s easy to end up...
00:10:14 2022-01-17
Being of service isn’t just a noble thing to do, or something to tick off on a list of things that make you a better person. It’s actually beneficial to you too, primarily because it gets you into a higher level of energy. Not energy as in what my gr...
00:07:59 2022-01-14
Warning: Deep thoughts about comfort zones ahead! In which I argue that maybe what you've become comfortable with isn't actually all that comfortable--it's just familiar. And how making changes that make SEEM like they're taking you out of your comfort zo...
00:08:53 2022-01-13
In addition to upping the cozy factor in your home and in your body–as I covered in the previous two episodes–seeking coziness and comfort is also worthy goals when it comes to making life decisions, like what you do for work and where, who you’re i...
00:08:19 2022-01-12
You don't always have control over your environment, but you do have say over what goes on your body. Today I'm sharing my top 5 ways to keep yourself cozy as a baby lamb snuggled up to its mama, no matter where you are. As my favorite pin says, "Cozy doe...
00:09:37 2022-01-11
Environment is such a big piece of your wellbeing. It’s definitely worth taking a little time to set up your space for a little extra coziness. I promise these ideas are inexpensive and you likely already have things on hand that will help you execute t...
00:08:22 2022-01-10
This week on the podcast is all about finding comfort and coziness. It’s just the time of year–and that time in the world at large as we round the corner on 2 years of a pandemic with a spike in cases. Let’s use this s-h-i-t show as an opportunity t...
00:11:19 2022-01-07
One area of life that is in need of recovery for a lot of people right now, in this first week after the holidays, is your primary relationships. I wrote a blog post called How I Stopped Hating My Husband and You Can Too in 2013, about how I learned how ...
00:08:56 2022-01-06
The problem with recovery is that we tend to think it’s only for certain situations–an addict who has hit rock bottom, for example, or someone who has experienced a major illness or surgery. And then, even in those situations, we expect recovery to ha...
00:19:11 2022-01-05
Today’s big idea is that we have a cultural bias against recovery–because if you’re recovering from something, then something must have been kicking your butt. And we’re not great at tolerating quote-unquote weakness. When the truth is, there are ...
00:08:14 2022-01-04
Today’s big idea is that, once you recognize that you are in a recovery phase–and honestly, who among us hasn’t experienced loss and challenge in these last few years–you will naturally want to do something about that awareness. This episode lays ...
00:07:59 2022-01-03
This week on the podcast I’m talking about recovery. Because after the two years we’ve just had, plus the holidays–which are typically enough on their own to make you feel like you’ve lost touch with the things that make you feel your best–I thi...
00:13:07 2021-12-31
Today’s anti-resolution is probably the most important of them all. I should have maybe run it on Monday, but for whatever reason, my episodes that drop on Fridays tend to get the most downloads, so here it is: Un-Fix Yourself.  That might seem like a ...
00:11:49 2021-12-30
I used to be obsessed with productivity hacks. How could I make better lists so that I got more done in a day? What could I do to promote my focus so that I could produce more? I wasn't seeking ways to find my own flow and do my best work--I was just tryi...
00:10:42 2021-12-29
Today’s anti-resolution is to Stop Being Nice. Wut?! Despite the fact that women have been socialized to be nice above all else, it's not actually a very noble goal, as my co-host this week, Terri Trespicio, breaks down today. Does that mean you should ...
00:12:15 2021-12-28
Today’s surprising strategy for a better new year is to Un-plan Your Life. Which, depending on how much of a planner you are, may sound like just a completely ludicrous idea. BUT, as this week's co-host, Terri Trespicio, will talk us through--plans chan...
00:13:49 2021-12-27
In honor of the year we just had, and how grueling it has been in terms of stress and uncertainty and the sheer volume of decisions we’ve had to make on a daily basis, I want to approach this new year’s season a little differently.  Instead of reflec...
00:08:21 2021-12-24
Today’s big idea is actually a really tiny little thing that can help you come into the present moment and feel supported. And that really tiny little thing is to bring the soles of your feet to the floor. Seriously, it's a tiny thing with a massive foo...
00:07:12 2021-12-23
Your body is your friend and your passport to being present. Because while your mind can hop all over the place in time--in to the future, back in to the past, into hypothetical situations and daydreams--your body is always. Here. Right. Now. Here's how t...
00:07:37 2021-12-22
Your ears are a portal to the present moment, because listening well is basically meditating. It’s focusing your awareness on one particular point--in this case, what you can hear--and it gets your mind into a quiet and receptive state, which keeps it f...
00:08:12 2021-12-21
A great way to settle into the present moment is to focus on your powers of observation. It’s also perfect for observing the winter solstice, which is today! Solstice means “standing still of sun” and on this day it’s like we’re suspended betwee...
00:09:26 2021-12-20
Eating is something you do every day. It’s tasty. AND it can be a portal into a calmer state of mind. The catch is, eating probably isn’t going to help you be present unless you decide that you want it to be. Otherwise, you’ll probably revert to jus...
00:09:35 2021-12-17
Setting an intention before you head into any kind of holiday situation, whether that’s a family gathering, or doing some kind of chore, or shopping, or traveling, can help you achieve those twin goals of reducing stress and enjoying more.  Learn more ...
00:09:10 2021-12-16
Listen, I get that there is a lot of work that goes into holiday celebrations and it is so natural and tempting to kind of groan your way through them or talk about how you hate them. You may not feel 100% at peace with all the stuff you’ve got to do al...
00:20:38 2021-12-15
Today I want to talk specifically about how to navigate family gatherings. And to help with that, I’m interviewing Amy E. Smith, a life coach and communications specialist who specializes in all things self-worth and confidence. Amy has been on the show...
00:08:11 2021-12-14
Today’s big idea is that you can really up your enjoyment of the holidays by getting really clear on what it is about them that you love and focusing on those things--and letting everything else recede into the background.  So at this juncture, it’s ...
00:10:34 2021-12-13
I’ve got a tool for you that will help you figure out what parts of the holiday you want to prioritize and which you might dial back on. It’s a priority-making matrix that I learned as a tool to help you figure out how to maximize your impact and redu...
00:09:25 2021-12-10
When you start to look back on your daily writing over time, something really cool happens. You can start to discern patterns and insights that are deeper than your daily concerns. They help you see the arc your life is currently on. You have to do two th...
00:09:04 2021-12-09
There’s nothing that can kick up resistance and self-doubt more quickly for a lot of people than to sit down and pick up a pen or open a blank document.  That’s because your inner critic is going to prick up its ears the second you decide to write so...
00:21:25 2021-12-08
Today I'm interviewing Kristin Manieri, a certified mindfulness teacher, host of the excellent podcast "60 Mindful Minutes" and author of several books on mindfulness, including The Mindfulness Journal: Daily Check-in. Kristen shares her insight on why w...
00:07:08 2021-12-07
While, yes, writing is a great way to get to know yourself better, it can also help you be more productive. And not the whirling dervish, work on a ton of things at once and end the day in an exhausted heap, kind of productivity. But peaceful productivity...
00:10:26 2021-12-06
Writing has this mystique, like it’s something only for certain people, and that’s just a darned shame because writing is just a magical, and powerful way to get to know, understand, and even like and appreciate yourself more. It’s a tool that you j...
00:11:53 2021-12-03
Consuming wellness content is kinda like that board game for kids Chutes and Ladders. It starts off like a ladder Take these steps to get your health to a better place. It’s cool, you’re learning things, getting ideas, trying them out in your own life...
00:10:36 2021-12-02
One of the problems with wellness is that it’s freaking expensive. And for that reason, it’s also elitist. Buying organic, grass-fed, Fair Trade all costs more. Add to that supplements, like omega 3s, and probiotics, and protein powders, organic mat...
00:35:52 2021-12-01
This week on the podcast we’re taking a look at some of the aspects of the health world that maybe deserve some re-thinking. And one of those things is weight. Today I’m interviewing Dr. Kara Fitzgerald, a functional medicine doctor, author of the so...
00:11:29 2021-11-30
The issue with wellness that I’m taking aim at today is that it can be awfully shaming--whether that judgment is coming from your doctor, an article or podcast or book, a friend or loved one, or even yourself. Let's unpack this. Learn more about your ad...
00:13:08 2021-11-29
This week on the podcast I’m taking a look at health and wellness and trying to help you and me and everyone navigate this super important topic that also can be, for lack of a better term, crazy-making. And the first issue I’m taking aim at is the fa...
00:11:31 2021-11-26
There’s a positive emotion that can help you be happy with what you have and shift out of that mental state where you’re feeling incomplete and like you might need something to fill a hole in your life. It's contentment. Not the "I have the remote, a ...
00:09:25 2021-11-25
Today’s big idea is, no surprise about gratitude. After all, it’s Thanksgiving in the US--essentially a national day of gratitude. But it's about a specific way of sharing your gratitude that's been shown by science to have long-lasting beneficial ef...
00:18:09 2021-11-24
Wonder is a positive emotion that has tremendous benefits, in addition to being so much fun to seek. But it’s not something we tend to think about much in the midst of the daily grind. I hope today’s interview will help change that. I’m talking with...
00:12:09 2021-11-23
You know how in Goodfellas, Joe Pesci gets upset when someone calls him funny and he gets ticked off and says, "Am I clown? Do I amuse you?" all menacingly, like amusement is some kind of offense? Well, it's not. It's actually a SUPER powerful positive em...
00:09:26 2021-11-22
Imagine that your emotional wellbeing is a see-saw. On one side are all the negative emotions, and on the other are the positive emotions. We tend to not focus on the positive emotions that much, and that's a darn shame because they have SO MUCH to offer...
00:08:54 2021-11-19
We all make financial mistakes. No one has a track record of doing the precisely right thing with their money 100% of the time. It’s really really easy to spend money in ways that don’t pan out the way you’d hoped. It’s also really really easy to...
00:10:00 2021-11-18
Spending money isn’t the only way to procure the things you want and need. There are online communities and social networks where people are giving and receiving all kinds of things that have value for free. And one of these are the Buy Nothing groups o...
00:23:05 2021-11-17
Today, I’m talking with Brittni Sennett, a professional financial planner who helps womxn take a whole self approach to improving their financial lives. Brittni isn’t your typical, buttoned up financial planner and her clients aren’t your typical al...
00:09:39 2021-11-16
There are two primary ways to have more money in your pocket--you can spend less, or you can earn more. And far too many of us--particularly women--are focused solely on the “spend less” portion of that equation. Let's change that. Sign up for the Ho...
00:09:44 2021-11-15
I was inspired to make this the first episode of a week of episodes on real money talk because I just this morning had a moment of total money panic. I went to check the balance on our joint account--my spouse and I both pay in equal amounts each month an...
00:09:06 2021-11-12
Being a better person isn't a fluke of genetics or good parenting. Everyone has inherent goodness. Everyday, you’re faced with hundreds of decisions, and it’s in those decisions where you have the potential to move toward better. Sign up for the How ...
00:09:54 2021-11-11
You don’t have to be a better person ALL the time. And thank goodness for that. Because trying to do anything 100% of the time is a recipe for burnout. Sign up for the How to Be a Better Person newsletter and never miss an episode! Got a comment or a...
00:09:19 2021-11-10
Looking for the opportunity keeps your eyes open to what good things might be trying to emerge. And finding those opportunities is what helps you use the simple act of living your life as a personal development seminar. Sign up for the How to Be a Better...
00:10:46 2021-11-09
ven though it’s a simple concept, awareness is a pretty rare and wonderful thing, like an orchid in a sea of carnations. Because it’s a lot more convenient to not pay attention to stuff--particularly your own stuff. Being able to see yourself clearl...
00:00:01 2021-11-08
You don’t have to transform yourself into Mother Theresa or Gandhi or whomever your ideal ‘good person’ is. Truly, you just have to care enough to opt for a better choice at your next opportunity. Sign up for the How to Be a Better Person newslette...
00:10:04 2021-11-05
There’s something that may seem very small that actually has the potential to have a very big impact on your community at large, and that is to have more conversations with the people you know about the laws, policies, bodies, and people that govern whe...
00:10:20 2021-11-04
You elected officials are very interested in hearing what people think about the issues that they’re working on--or not working on. And, remember, you are one of those people. So, they want to hear from YOU. Here's how to do it, and how your writing or...
00:23:07 2021-11-03
Today, we’re going to learn how a person who gives a shit--which is how I think of that desire to make a difference in yourself and the world--can become more engaged in democracy. I’m interviewing Nirva LaFortune, who is my city council representativ...
00:11:32 2021-11-02
Local news outlets are a crucial piece of democracy. Journalists for local papers attend town hall meetings and school board meetings and zoning meetings and committee hearings and THEN THEY REPORT ON THEM. If the government or other entities that serve t...
00:11:04 2021-11-01
This week on the podcast, in honor of Election Day (which is tomorrow), I’m talking about how to be a better, more engaged citizen. Most of us know it’s important to vote in our presidential elections, but those only come around every four years, and ...
00:08:23 2021-10-29
Thanks to social media it’s easier than ever to immerse yourself in images of seemingly perfect people, in seemingly perfect spaces, living seemingly perfect lives. It seems like a fun diversion, but it’s often creating feelings of anxiety, depression...
00:07:06 2021-10-28
Today’s big idea is that the things about you that don’t fit an image of perfection are actually a source of strength. They are often actually what you’re here to help other people with. Distilled into one catchy phrase, your mess is your message. G...
00:18:52 2021-10-27
This week I hope to help us all see how perfectionism might be driving our desire to be better and to embrace all the many glorious ways we’re imperfect. Today I’m talking to someone who can help us do just that clinical psychologist and meditation te...
00:08:40 2021-10-26
Not just the type A, dot every I, and cross every T form of perfectionism that a lot of people associate with the term. I’m going to share some of the ways perfectionism shows up so that you can have a better idea of whether it’s something you are ex...
00:12:01 2021-10-25
This week on the podcast I’m talking about perfectionism, because as honorable as it is to care about being a better person and to give a shit about bringing your best and making a difference, we can go overboard with it all and feel like crap if we’r...
00:11:19 2021-10-22
Devoting some time to stretching is a great way to check in with yourself and your body and see how you’re feeling, where you might be feeling tension that you weren’t aware of, and just sending yourself some love. But you probably already knew that. ...
00:09:43 2021-10-21
The great thing about nature is that it has that magic ability to both calm you and energize you. And that’s precisely what we’re after during this week dedicated to dawdling and replenishing. Let me know what you do to replenish! Take a pic of you en...
00:10:25 2021-10-20
Now that you’ve said no to some stuff and cleared some space in your schedule and your head, and you’ve spent some time alone and had a chance to digest some emotions, let’s get your senses involved and do something that feels physically fantastic. ...
00:10:50 2021-10-19
Spending time alone is a key ingredient for replenishment. The thing is, when you’re alone, no one is talking to you, or asking you to do something, and you can hear yourself think. Even if you are the most extroverted extrovert, alone time is still hel...
00:09:23 2021-10-18
This week on the podcast I’m doing things a little differently, and trying to create some space for us all to slow down a little bit, catch our breath, and refill our wells a bit. I’m calling it the Five-Day Dawdle--as in, five days of doing the defin...
00:08:10 2021-10-15
There are many big, capital-D decisions that can take a really long time to figure out. Things like, should you move, change jobs, break up, have kids, or anything that feels like it’s going to change your life. These big decisions require taking your t...
00:07:38 2021-10-14
One way to avoid overthinking or ignoring some of the things that you need to decide is to give yourself a deadline. In other words, some times you need to decide WHEN you’re going to decide. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoice...
00:17:35 2021-10-13
Because you are listening to a podcast called How to be a Better Person, you give a shit, about a lot of things, including making good choices. And that desire, while beautiful, can also be a slippery slope into overthinking. I mean, we’ve all been ther...
00:10:03 2021-10-12
One of the reasons why decisions can be so taxing is that we’re over-relying on our brains to make them. Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for making pro and con lists and doing research and mulling things over, but your brain isn’t the only game in tow...
00:11:23 2021-10-11
Most of us know the basics of decision-making--name the problem, list the options, weigh the pros and cons of each, and choose the best one. But sometimes, the straightforward, tried and true approach just doesn’t work. Especially now in the Covid era, ...
00:11:34 2021-10-08
OK the pandemic did NOT help us have a healthy relationship to screens. Not that all screen time is bad, but... we could all pretty much use a check in on how much time we spend starting at a screen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/ad...
00:10:29 2021-10-07
There’s a scientific term for the phenomenon of acting differently online than you do in real life, it’s called the internet disinhibition effect. So if you get fired up and leave snarky comments or bad reviews, you're living out a scientific princip...
00:19:52 2021-10-06
Smartphones are designed to be addictive. If you can't stop looking at yours, it makes sense. Does that mean there's nothing you can do? No. Dr. Jud Brewer, a New York Times best-selling author, neuroscientist, addiction psychiatrist, and thought leader i...
00:10:47 2021-10-05
Anytime you are online (unless you’ve paid for a subscription service with no ads), SHOPPING IS EVERYWHERE!! It’s very, very hard to resist. Which is tough on our willpower, which is a finite resource that burns pretty quickly, our credit card balance...
00:11:16 2021-10-04
All our connectivity makes a lot of things easier, but there are some things where you don’t really want to take the easy route: for example, fostering day to day closeness to people you love. Survey That Found that Americans Spend 59 Hours a Week on th...
00:10:43 2021-10-01
Well, you commit to something. Something that helps keep a very manageable amount of your energy directed toward making a difference. I'll also share how I came to be secretary of the PTO--and why I'm so glad I did, despite the meetings. Learn more about ...
00:08:13 2021-09-30
In what I think might end up being the shortest How to Be a Better Person podcast episode ever, your tiny assignment today is just ridiculously simple. But hearing why it matters so very much will help inspire you to do it. Learn more about your ad choice...
00:09:07 2021-09-29
You may not have 50,000 followers on Instagram or a million followers on tiktok, but you still have influence. Today’s piece of the challenge is to take the information you gathered on who is already doing the work on the thing you want to help address,...
00:09:09 2021-09-28
Here’s a crucial thing to keep in mind when it comes to making a difference on issues big and small, global and local: You don’t need to be the savior rushing in a white horse. In fact, you'd likely only make things worse. Instead, your task today is ...
00:11:03 2021-09-27
This week on the podcast I’m doing something a little bit different. Because I’ve gotten such a great response to my free I Give a Shit sticker (it's a nice antidote to the I give zero effs thing that’s been floating around) and because there are ju...
00:11:36 2021-09-24
Your emotions aren’t here to torture you; they’re messengers, giving you information about what you value, need, and want. Here's one question to ask yourself to figure out what information your anger is trying to convey. (Then it won’t have to try ...
00:11:05 2021-09-23
Each of us has a set of beliefs about anger that we’ve been carrying around since we were little. By taking a little time to think about what those beliefs are, you can get a little more objectivity and perspective on this emotion that so often prevents...
00:26:34 2021-09-22
I wanted to talk to someone who could help us think about anger in new ways and potentially interrupt any of our habitual patterns around it so that we’ve got some space to learn some new skills for dealing with it. The person I’m talking to today is ...
00:13:56 2021-09-21
There’s nothing wrong with anger management strategies, which are fine but, to use a healthcare analogy, learning how to manage anger is trying to mitigate symptoms, instead of treating the root cause. Let’s look at some of the many, many things that ...
00:10:38 2021-09-20
This week's episodes were inspired by a listener question about feeling angry all the time lately, and what to do about it. And since anger is definitely having a moment (all that cooped-up angst has to have somewhere to go), let's figure out what all thi...
00:09:46 2021-09-17
Even when you’re busy and don’t feel like you have a lot of time to do things just for the fun of it, you can increase your experience of fun by tuning in to how fun feels in your body. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
00:09:19 2021-09-16
Let’s face it: Adulting can be a real slog. The list of things to do and take care of can feel relentless. However, that does not mean that doing the things you need to do has to be boring, or tedious. You CAN use fun to goad yourself into doing those t...
00:18:14 2021-09-15
Today I’m interviewing Dr. Rachel Allyn, a relationship and sex therapist and the author of the new book, The Pleasure Is All Yours: Reclaim Your Body’s Bliss and Reignite Your Passion for Life. After all fun and pleasure go hand in hand, and if you...
00:11:53 2021-09-14
In order to invite more fun into your life, it helps to give some thought to what you consider to be fun, and what you’ve been doing for fun lately, and objectively assess whether you might need to prioritize fun a little more. I think of it as doing a ...
00:12:19 2021-09-13
I get that fun can feel frivolous, and that it’s easy to think that we should wait until things calm down before we even consider doing something just for the fun of it. But fun is not just enjoyable, but also it’s vital to our wellbeing and even to o...
00:09:15 2021-09-10
There are two kinds of people in this world: those who embrace leftovers, and those who turn their nose up at them. By the end of this episode, I hope you’ll be firmly in the embrace ‘em camp, if you’re not there already. Learn more about your ad ch...
00:09:36 2021-09-09
We can’t talk about how to get better and making more of your own food without also talking about getting better about grocery shopping. After all, you can’t cook what you don’t have. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
00:20:46 2021-09-08
Let’s be honest, figuring out what to eat can also be overwhelming. So today, I’m interviewing Kate Schulz, co-host of the Dinner Sisters podcast, for her tips on how to figure out what the heck to have for dinner. Kate is a home cook through and thro...
00:09:28 2021-09-07
While you definitely don’t need any formal training to be a great home cook, having a couple techniques up your sleeve can make things a lot easier. So today I’m sharing three cooking strategies that, over the years, have saved me weeks of time. I did...
00:12:49 2021-09-06
We all know that vegetables are good for us, but few of us are eating as many as we probably ought to be. In fact, a survey commissioned by the food brand. Dr. Praeger's found that a quarter of Americans have never had a vegetable! So let’s talk about h...
00:08:57 2021-09-03
Ok, yes, fall is busy, but it's about more than just being a busy little squirrel and hiding away your acorns for the winter to come (although it is about that too). Let's look at the deeper meaning--and opportunities--of fall so we can be intentional abo...
00:10:56 2021-09-02
Instead of creating a rigid new schedule for fall, think about how making your schedule more like a song--with a consistent rhythm that can adapt to different circumstances, like verses (weekdays), choruses (weekends), and even shredding guitar solos (tho...
00:19:35 2021-09-01
Today I’m talking with my go-to nutrition expert, Mary Sheila Gonnella, of Occidental Nutrition--a recurring guest on this podcast, a friend of mine, and a very talented and passionate nutritionist who blends traditional approaches,-like taking care of ...
00:09:15 2021-08-31
Let’s just go ahead and admit it. Transitions can be really hard. And fall is a lot of transitions rolled into one--changes in weather, in schedules, and overall energy. I share two ways to help you feel more stable and safe during this wonky time. Lear...
00:08:51 2021-08-30
Right about now, it is easy to be feeling like you’ve gotten off track with your healthy habits. Maybe your bedtime has crept later, and if you have kids, so has theirs. Maybe it felt too hot to cook so you got really into eating more stuff like pizza o...
00:13:03 2021-08-27
So very many of us have experienced something that makes us feel ashamed, and that shame can worm its way into your subconscious and make you feel like deep down inside, you are a bad person. Something that we’re scared that if people knew the truth abo...
00:12:02 2021-08-26
I don’t know about you, but I find it comforting to know that humans have been backsliding for thousands and thousands of years! It’s not a question of if it will happen, but when. And therefore, not something that means you’re a bad person. Just so...
00:18:37 2021-08-25
Whether you’re telling a little fib, or blatantly telling someone something that isn’t true, or even NOT telling someone something that IS true, dishonesty is often one of those things that triggers a visit from the “am I a bad person?” thought pa...
00:12:35 2021-08-24
Today’s trait is running late and forgetting stuff and therefore, potentially letting other people down. Let me just say, I FEEL this one. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
00:12:04 2021-08-23
This week on the podcast I want to flip things and instead of talking about being a better person, to spend a little time talking about the things we all sometimes do that can leave us wondering, am I a bad person? When I surveyed listeners several months...
00:10:55 2021-08-20
Accepting the things about yourself that you might otherwise judge as ‘bad’ is a big piece of loving yourself. After all, love isn’t conditional. It’s not, I’ll love myself after I lose 5 pounds, or get a new job, or things calm down. Learn more...
00:11:52 2021-08-19
These August days are about as quiet as it gets on the work front (except for, perhaps, the week between Christmas and New Year's). Let's take this opportunity to restore our ability to focus. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
00:14:23 2021-08-18
To help us all think about how to go about cultivating more grit I wanted to talk to a pro, so I reached out to Shannon Huffman Polson, the youngest woman ever to climb Mt. McKinley, one of the first women to be trained to fly an Apache helicopter during ...
00:11:49 2021-08-17
One of my better person principles (that I shared last week in episode 509) is that every challenge has an opportunity wrapped up inside it. Even the terrible, horrible, no good, very bad challenges, like, say, a global pandemic. And one of those opportun...
00:11:21 2021-08-16
You used to more or less be able to decide when you wanted to wade into a potentially heated conversation. Now, whether you're talking about masks, vaccines, or the start of school, you can stumble into them multiple times a day. What's a person who's try...
00:09:35 2021-08-13
Being a better person isn't a fluke of genetics. Everyone has inherent goodness. Everyday, you’re faced with hundreds of decisions, and it’s in those decisions where you have the potential to move toward better. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit...
00:09:22 2021-08-12
You don’t have to be a better person ALL the time. And thank goodness for that. Because trying to do anything 100% of the time is a recipe for burnout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
00:08:48 2021-08-11
Looking for the opportunity keeps your eyes open to what good things might be trying to emerge. And finding those opportunities is what helps you use the simple act of living your life as a personal development seminar. Learn more about your ad choices. V...
00:10:14 2021-08-10
Even though it’s a simple concept, awareness is a pretty rare and wonderful thing, like an orchid in a sea of carnations. Because it’s a lot more convenient to not pay attention to stuff--particularly your own stuff. Being able to see yourself clearly...
00:10:40 2021-08-09
You don’t have to transform yourself into Mother Theresa or Gandhi or whomever your ideal ‘good person’ is. Truly, you just have to care enough to opt for a better choice at your next opportunity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm...
00:10:45 2021-08-06
One huge obstacle to creativity is your inner critic, which is obsessed with keeping you safe, and will try to convince you that anything new you’re either thinking, doing, or trying to create, is either dangerous--as in, it could open you up to ridicul...
00:11:55 2021-08-05
Fun fact: the root of “spire” means breath, so inspired means filled with breath, or since if you aren’t breathing you’re dead, filled with life. So even if you don’t care one whit about doing anything creative, inspiration is still essential. H...
00:18:13 2021-08-04
OK, let's talk nuts and bolts. HOW do you incorporate creativity into what I'm assuming is already a pretty gosh darn busy life? I'm interviewing Jackie Dishner, an Arizona-based artist, author, and writer who teaches creativity classes. I'm gonna get her...
00:11:10 2021-08-03
Some of us--many of us--do NOT feel like we are creative beings. Like, it’s something that only gets handed out to some folks, and others are stuck in logical land. When really, creativity is an innate human trait, we all have it, in some form, to some ...
00:11:51 2021-08-02
Covid cases are trending back upward, this summer has been intense on the weather front, and you know, I think the collective we could really go for a topic that’s comforting and taps into the dreamier, more imaginative side of life. Plus, creativity is...
00:09:27 2021-07-30
This pandemic summer, when we still can’t really predict what the fall, winter and spring ahead will be like, and yet we theoretically are out of the worst of it, is a very transitional time to be. And the human brain typically does NOT like transitions...
00:07:39 2021-07-29
Today is the 500th episode of this podcast! Can you believe it? I hardly can. For today’s big idea, I’m sharing five things I’ve learned over these past 500 episodes. But before I do, I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for listen...
00:21:32 2021-07-28
Since tomorrow is the 500th episode of this podcast, and I am so blown away by this number, that I wanted to talk to someone who knows the symbolism of numbers to help me understand what this particular milestone means on a symbolic level. I spoke with en...
00:06:50 2021-07-27
C'mon, you can admit it. When you see the photos of your friends on their vacations to the Cape, or Hawaii, or the lake, part of you is jealous. Maybe even a little judgy. Today, let's talk about how to work that feeling and turn it into an opportunity to...
00:06:03 2021-07-26
Something we don’t generally think about when we think about being more generous is giving to ourselves, too. Which is a really important piece of being a more giving person, because you can’t give from an empty cup. Learn more about your ad choices....
00:07:15 2021-07-23
You can be generous in some ways, and stingy in others. And it’s really fascinating to start to unpack where you are a natural giver, and where you might be more likely to freeze up and think, oh heck no. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaph...
00:06:16 2021-07-22
While giving is often energizing, there are definitely times when it’s draining. In addition, sometimes *your* giving can make the person you’re trying to give to feel bad--micromanaged, or like you think they aren’t capable. So today, let’s figur...
00:22:04 2021-07-21
Today I’m talking to four-time TED speaker Damon Brown about emotional labor--why it's the best thing you have to offer, and also how it can quickly deplete you if you're not intentional about it. PLUS, we break down the costs of letting someone pick yo...
00:10:30 2021-07-20
There are so many ways you can give, and they don’t necessarily require a lot of time or money, which is what we typically think of when we think of giving. Check out this list of ways to be generous that will get you in that giving mood.(You can tell t...
00:06:28 2021-07-19
Yes, generosity is a virtue, and a key piece of being a better person. BUT the funny paradox about giving is that it feels really good to help others, and those good feelings help energize you in all parts of your life. Find out why Learn more about your ...
00:06:28 2021-07-16
People’s best--including our own--may look nothing like what we would have expected in the 'before times.' We have to give each other a wide enough berth to be harried, or to overreact, or to be slow, or irritable, and to not make that behavior mean tha...
00:06:00 2021-07-15
During times of transition, it’s easier than ever to judge our fellow humans, which is ironic, because this is when we need to offer each other the most tolerance we can muster. Here's a way to short-circuit this very human inclination. Learn more abou...
00:16:33 2021-07-14
Today I’m interviewing Gwen Moran who writes and speaks about the intersection of workplace issues and life. Gwen is a regular contributor to Fast Company, Inc., and many other outlets, where she’s been writing extensively about re-emergence from the ...
00:07:15 2021-07-13
You've probably noticed that people are acting a little...odd lately--aggressive, irritable, forgetful, slow. That's because collectively we're in a time of upheaval and our social skills have atrophied. You can either get knocked off your center, or you ...
00:06:31 2021-07-12
When the urge to pour yourself a drink strikes, it’s helpful to have a couple other strategies in place that you can do instead. Here are three of my favorites. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
00:09:24 2021-07-09
It's common to pop open something alcoholic when you're stressed, just so you can switch into chill mode. So what can do you to take the edge off if you're not drinking? Hoo doggie...so many things!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/ad...
00:07:45 2021-07-08
We often turn to alcohol as a way to let loose and have fun. So if you stop or cut way back on drinking, does that mean you're going to be boring? Nope. Today I'm talking about other ways to get into that ‘let’s have some fun’ state of mind without ...
00:24:15 2021-07-07
Today I'm talking with Sarah Kate, founder of the website Some Good Clean Fun and advocate for breaking free from mommy wine culture, about how simply deciding to drink less can be difficult, why it's something worth serious consideration, and what's poss...
00:17:28 2021-07-06
Today I'm talking with Michelle Smith, a TEDx speaker, author, podcaster, mental health and addictions counselor and founder of Recovery is the New Black. Michelle describes herself as a sobriety advocate, and I'm excited to talk to her today about how to...
00:10:46 2021-07-05
This week of episodes is for everyone, but especially anyone who is waking up today feeling any kind of negative way about how much they had to drink this weekend, and who might be feeling ready to make a change. In other words, this episode is for anyone...
00:08:51 2021-07-02
If you’re not taking stock of the things you tell yourself on the regular, guess what--you’re going to make the same choices that led you to feeling like you needed that detox and that de-cluttering in the first place. Learn more about your ad choices...
00:09:21 2021-07-01
There are many obstacles to creating and assimilating new habits that help us become better people. I mean, of course, otherwise we would all be walking around as the best possible version of ourselves and wouldn’t that be grand? Here's how to deal with...
00:06:25 2021-06-30
Trying to become better is not a reason for feeling bad about yourself. You will mess up. You will backslide. You will completely forget. And it is OK. All you need to do is simply start again. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoice...
00:09:45 2021-06-29
As wonderful and enjoyable and nourishing as meditation is, you are going to have times--many, many times--when you don’t feel like doing it. It's not a question of IF it will happen, it's a question of WHEN. Come find out why we do that, and learn 3 st...
00:06:37 2021-06-28
Although it feels like one, money is NOT a finite resource. They print more money every day. And yet, we tend to think of money as a zero sum game--once it’s gone, it’s gone. Today's mantra helps you shift out of that perception of lack. Learn more ab...
00:10:43 2021-06-25
Today I'm offering a look a look at the business side of this podcast--why I started it, how I produce it, how much it earns, how much it costs. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
00:10:21 2021-06-24
CNBC reports that up to 80% of jobs are filled by networking--and that up to 70% of jobs are never even listed anywhere publicly. It really is who you know. So what if you don't feel like you know the right or enough people? Here's a little networking 101...
00:22:00 2021-06-23
Today I’m talking with someone who helps people think about work in new ways all day, every day. She knows how to counsel people who are making changes in their work lives. Tami Forman is the executive director of Path Forward, a nonprofit organization ...
00:07:27 2021-06-22
Today’s big idea is something that can help you get more energized about work, AND help you deliver more value and make a bigger impact while also having to try less hard. YES I know this sounds like magical thinking, but it’s not. Learn more about y...
00:10:03 2021-06-21
If we are in what economists and journalists are calling a Great Reassessment of work, what do we want to take in to account when we’re doing this re-assessing? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
00:06:00 2021-06-18
Do you still want to hug everyone? Are there places where you want to continue wearing a mask? Was there a part of pandemic life that you want to keep going? Or something you DIDN'T do (or people you didn't see) during the pandemic that you realize was ac...
00:05:51 2021-06-17
There are two types of boundaries, and we tend to only think about one of them, which means you could be neglecting an important way of keeping yourself in a good place. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
00:17:43 2021-06-16
Today I'm talking with Amy E Smith, a life coach who teaches chronic people-pleasers how to stand up for themselves without being a dick. I mean, yes please! Amy gives a masterclass on what boundaries are, how to figure out what boundaries you might be, a...
00:05:59 2021-06-15
Drawing boundaries might feel limiting, but anytime you put some guardrails around something, you actually plug up holes where energy could leak out of, or outside distractions could get in through. And corralling your energy is, paradoxically, mega-freei...
00:06:01 2021-06-14
Most of us think about boundaries as a means of self-protection, which they are, but thinking of them solely that way puts you in a defensive stance, like the Notre Dame Fighting Irish mascot. And that stance takes a lot of energy to maintain, even if you...
00:08:16 2021-06-11
Sure, there's plenty of things about perimenopause that suck. But as a post-menopausal person, I'm here to tell you about what you have to look forward to. (It's good news.) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
00:09:24 2021-06-10
I value Western medicine, I truly do, but there are some things where it’s not all that helpful, and women’s health and wellness is generally one of them. Here are three types of health care practitioners who might be able to really help smooth the bu...
00:25:41 2021-06-09
Today I’m talking with Jolinda Johnson about the many symptoms of perimenopause, many of which I think will surprise you, as well as easy but powerful things you can do for yourself that mitigate those symptoms. Jolinda knows her STUFF!! I learned a ton...
00:07:46 2021-06-08
Could your fatigue be related to perimenopause? Could your weight gain? What about your back pain? Because perimenopause can trigger a whole slew of seemingly disconnected symptoms, the probable answer is yes. Come learn some of the more surprising sympto...
00:08:53 2021-06-07
For too long, this natural shift that every person with a uterus and ovaries goes through has either been seen as either sad, scary, or shameful. It’s time to normalize perimenopause, and bring it into the light. Learn more about your ad choices. Visi...
00:06:03 2021-06-04
For today’s big idea, I’m sharing my VERY BEST tip on how to have just a fabulous time at the beach. It’s so good, I can’t even believe I’m sharing it, because now it will be out of the bag, and if more people start doing it, at some point it wo...
00:08:01 2021-06-03
With all the extra sunlight and the heat that’s happening right now, it can be hard to get good sleep. I know it feels like all that extra sun is penetrating straight into my brain! So let’s talk about how to get the zzzzs you need even now. Learn mor...
00:30:42 2021-06-02
Today I’m talking with Katy Bowman, biomechanist and bestselling author of many books, including her newest, Grow Wild: The Whole-Child, Whole-Family Nature-Rich Guide to Moving More. We break it down how to get kids back into moving their bodies and he...
00:06:10 2021-06-01
Today's tip is making a summer bucket list, which helps ensure that you actually DO all the summery things that you love the most, so that you don’t roll up to September with that nagging feeling that you didn’t have the summer that you wanted. Except...
00:07:35 2021-05-31
Summer is about way more than sun, swimming, and barbecues. It’s about refilling your well after a long winter and a chilly, rainy spring. And that’s doubly, ESPECIALLY true after a pandemic winter!! Knowing what summer is really about helps you recup...
00:07:06 2021-05-28
No matter what you’re going to do to relax, or how long you have to do it, something you need to do to really maximize your efforts is to establish your own safety. This is a piece that most advice on how to relax misses--but when you implement this str...
00:11:28 2021-05-27
Sometimes you want and need a form of stress reduction that is "done for you" so that you can really go deeply in to the restorative relaxation zone. These three modalities can really help you go there and lessen the effect that stress is having on you. ...
00:09:22 2021-05-26
Today I'm sharing two stress reduction activities that you can do at home, with a tiny bit of equipment but nothing more exotic than a couple of blankets or a pillow, in about 20 minutes, and they can really transport you to another state of being. Learn...
00:08:37 2021-05-25
One of the insidious things about stress is that it will try to convince you that you don’t have time for anything that’s not related to getting things done. I promise you, you have a couple minutes for yourself, and you CAN foster relaxation in that ...
00:11:05 2021-05-24
Vegging out, doing nothing, and even leisure skills are not what I’m talking about when I say relaxation. That’s because relaxation is a specific physiological state of being. And in today’s stressful world, it often doesn’t happen by accident. If...
00:10:34 2021-05-21
If you’re a mom home with kids, your burnout is potentially at a whole ‘nother level after being your kids teacher, therapist, cruise director, best friend, playmate, nurse. I just want to say, I see you. I honor you. Today’s episode is especially f...
00:05:38 2021-05-20
We have it in our head that work equals effort, which means hard, which means not fun. But you’re working from home. No one is observing you. You absolutely can, and absolutely should, find a way to enjoy it more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit...
00:09:04 2021-05-19
One of the biggest problems of working from home--and the piece that plays the biggest role in work from home burnout--is that it’s very easy to feel like you should be working all the time. Here's how you prevent that from happening. Learn more about y...
00:06:14 2021-05-18
Even though you don’t have to commute to an office when you work from home and therefore don’t technically need to leave the house, trust me--you NEED to leave the house! Here's why. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
00:06:13 2021-05-17
With more people home all day, eating all meals at home, the dishes are just relentless. So relentless, in fact, that if you feel like you need to stay on top of them, you won’t get any work done, and you won’t get any rest. Here's how to strike a bal...
00:08:15 2021-05-14
If you are all charged up to get back to normal life where we are leaving the house and interacting with others on the regular again, there is privilege in that excitement that is helpful to acknowledge now. Because there are many folks who are dreading i...
00:06:01 2021-05-13
At some point in your life, no matter what race you are, you are likely to be called out for some mis-step. Let’s talk about how to handle that so that it becomes a growth opportunity, and not a moment of shame or anger. Learn more about your ad choice...
00:19:39 2021-05-12
Sure, mindfulness is a helpful tool when you're meditating--but can it help you have conversations about race, too? You bet. Racial justice educator Dr. Amanda Kemp is here today to tell us how and why. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.f...
00:06:57 2021-05-11
If you haven’t already, it’s time to start sharing the things you’ve learned about anti-racism and the results of the inner work you’ve done with the people in your circle of influence. Even if you don't feel ready. Learn more about your ad choic...
00:07:48 2021-05-10
Dr. Frederick Bryan said “Self-awareness IS a form of action,” so today we're just going to do a little check-in on how all that anti-racism flurry of last summer has shaken out in your own mind, actions, and life. It's a chance to take stock and re-c...
00:04:58 2021-05-07
For some of us--maybe more of us that you might realize--the idea of getting back out there and mingling with folks post quarantine is feeling a little scary. So let’s talk about how to make small talk even when it feels like you’re the Tin Min and yo...
00:08:19 2021-05-06
There are invariably going to be times when you need to talk about something with someone...and you are NOT going to want to do it, because it has the potential to be awkward, or angry-making, or just emotional in general. Having a game plan makes this mu...
00:14:05 2021-05-05
Today I’m talking with Morra Aarons-Mele, host of the Anxious Achiever podcast and author of Hiding in the Bathroom: How to Get Out There When You'd Rather Stay Home. I’m excited to get her perspective on how to work with things like anxiety and being...
00:08:53 2021-05-04
A good apology is an admission that you got something wrong. Which might be an occasion for you to feel like a bad person. Just to be clear: Being a better person isn’t about being perfect. It’s about using mis-steps as an opportunity to grow. An apol...
00:06:01 2021-05-03
When I asked my daughter if there were any situations where she wasn’t sure how to be a better person, she didn’t have to think long to come up with, what do you say to someone who’s crying. Which, I mean, 13 year old girls and their hormones mean t...
00:08:59 2021-04-30
As wonderful and enjoyable and nourishing as meditation is, you are going to have times--many, many times--when you don’t feel like doing it. It's not a question of IF it will happen, it's a question of WHEN. Come find out why we do that, and learn 3 st...
00:07:59 2021-04-29
A common obstacle to actually sitting down and meditating is the thought of, “I don’t have time.” So let’s take a look at how to make the time for meditation so that we can get out ahead of that thought. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit meg...
00:18:21 2021-04-28
Today I'm talking with Jess Naim, a Philadelphia meditation teacher who has a great way of making things like meditation and visualizing and breathwork not only relevant to real life, but also fun. She shared some meditation hacks that are nothing short ...
00:08:44 2021-04-27
Knowing exactly what to do when you meditate helps empower you to actually do it. Today I'm giving you a basic formula for what to do during a meditation practice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
00:10:16 2021-04-26
It’s easy to think of meditation as something boring you’re supposed to do to take care of yourself--kind of like flossing. When actually meditation is a pleasurable, decadent, and just ridiculously loving thing to do for yourself. Come find out why i...
00:07:15 2021-04-23
There is one thing that has a huge potential to enact changes that will protect the earth and help our climate heal, and that is to join forces with an organization that is lobbying the government to adopt climate-friendly laws and practices. This helps e...
00:07:26 2021-04-22
Finding ways to waste less food is great for the planet. And… it’s not something that we’re doing all that well. In fact, according to the United United States Department of Agriculture, one pound of food per person per day goes to waste--that's up ...
00:19:16 2021-04-21
Today I’m interviewing Emily Murphy, a regenerative organic gardener, nature activist, and author of the book Grow What You Love, asking her what we as individuals can do in our own yard, and on our windowsills, and in our own communities, to grow the c...
00:08:47 2021-04-20
How you power the lights, the heat, the cooling, the devices, and all the electronic doo dads in your home is one of your biggest levers for either contributing to climate change, or steering us away from it. Yet renewable energy costs more than fossil fu...
00:08:39 2021-04-19
Of course we want to make the planet a better place... but that often means paying a little bit more for the things that have a smaller footprint, whether that's recycled copy paper or organic strawberries or low-VOC paint. Is it worth it to spend more on...
00:19:59 2021-04-16
Today I’m talking with Brooke Thomas about how the tough times are an invitation to re-connect both with our bodies and with who we are at our core. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
00:12:07 2021-04-15
Journalist and author Harriet Marsden is used to dealing with haters. As evidence, an anonymous reader sent Harriet a copy of my book (How to Be a Better Person), with a very passive aggressive note, and Harriet had the good humor to snap a pic and post i...
00:17:49 2021-04-14
When I first encountered the idea that we’re talking about today, I definitely looked like a meme of a person whose mind has just been blown. It’s the idea that in general, women are vulnerable to thinking less of themselves, chronic stress, and warpe...
00:17:04 2021-04-13
Yes, doctors are helpful but the person who has the most sway over your health, is you. In today's episode, I talk with herbalist Kim Charlot of Eden's Leaves about how she came to embrace herbs as a primary part of her wellness strategy, and how you can ...
00:22:25 2021-04-12
Now that kids are home pretty much all the time, there’s been a lot of coverage in the media about how women are bearing the brunt of taking care of kids while schools, daycares, and now camps are shut down. I want to take a look at the reality of this,...
00:06:13 2021-04-09
Let today be the day that you very intentionally assess what you DON’T want to bring with you into the phase that comes after the pandemic. Doing so will help you release those things--from your life, from your consciousness, and even from your energy--...
00:07:07 2021-04-08
I bet there are all kinds of areas of your life that may be ready for a re-boot. Your home, your relationships, your diet, your exercise routine, your car, your closet… I mean, phew! It’s a lot. A way to get yourself into motion is to figure out where...
00:13:50 2021-04-07
Liza Zaslow of Gotham Organizers (whose video on organizing a tiny space has been viewed over 2 million times) shares how to make a big impact on your space in a small amount of time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
00:07:59 2021-04-06
Since a big portion of our lives happens online, it’s certainly worth some of your time to de-clutter your inbox. All those old emails hanging around in there are a looming presence every time you go into your inbox--and the average American adult chec...
00:08:05 2021-04-05
If you’re not taking stock of the things you tell yourself on the regular, guess what--you’re going to make the same choices that led you to feeling like you needed that detox and that de-cluttering in the first place. Learn more about your ad choice...
00:08:20 2021-04-02
Your highest priority is NOT to make sure that your bills are paid. It’s to make sure that YOU are paid. And how you do that is today’s money mantra. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
00:07:34 2021-04-01
It's easy to get caught up in the hunt for low prices--believe me, I know the thrill of a bargain well! But are you saving money if you buy something you never use on sale? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
00:17:01 2021-03-31
Too many of us--especially women--only focus on being able to pay our bills. While honorable, doing so prevents us from thinking about how to build wealth and create financial freedom. Jennifer Barrett, author of Think Like a Breadwinner, aims to change t...
00:05:51 2021-03-30
Let’s say there’s something that you’re NOT buying because it feels out of reach in some way. If you tell yourself--or someone else--that you can’t afford it, or you’re too broke--you’re basically putting energy in to this idea that you don’...
00:05:51 2021-03-29
Although it feels like one, money is NOT a finite resource. They print more money every day. And yet, we tend to think of money as a zero sum game--once it’s gone, it’s gone. Today's mantra helps you shift out of that perception of lack. Learn more a...
00:08:48 2021-03-26
When I saw the gif, it hit me. It was a drawing of a woman hugging a house and it said "Quarantine Forever" as hearts pulsed around head. I was feeling something surprising, even confusing--some sadness that quarantine will end. Learn more about your ad ...
00:06:40 2021-03-25
What we’re being called to grow our resilience. Because you can’t build resilience when everything’s hunky dory. Where we are right now is like the bottom of a push-up. Do you know how push-ups work? I didn’t. Learn more about your ad choices. Vi...
00:14:39 2021-03-24
Today I’m talking with Beverly Harzog, an expert on debt and credit cards and consumer finance analyst for US News & World Report, who has a great way of making financial subjects--especially emotionally-charged ones, like debt--very practical. Learn mo...
00:07:11 2021-03-23
For the last year, we have all been having to make impossible choices. Deciding between mental health and physical health, and individual health versus community health, or financial health versus mental health. I share two guidelines for making these imp...
00:09:11 2021-03-22
I’m hearing from folks from all walks of life is that if they are doing basically OK--they haven’t lost their job, or a loved one, they aren’t in financial or physical peril--they feel guilty about it. Let's talk about it. Learn more about your ad ...
00:05:44 2021-03-19
Today’s big idea is that even though we are undoubtedly living through a time of re-emergence, we need to be mindful of how we do it. After all, we just went through something just epically scary and exhausting. Expecting that we can just rush back "out...
00:07:34 2021-03-18
One thing that can make you NOT want to re-emerge after the long pandemic winter is seasonal allergies. Here's a simple and powerful detox that helps you shake off winter AND ward off the spring sniffles and sluggishness. Learn more about your ad choices...
00:19:55 2021-03-17
What we wear is is a great vehicle for expressing who we are now. And frankly, since we’ve been inside wearing sweatpants for a year now, it's also something we might be feeling a little rusty about. Today I'm interviewing Elysha Lenkin, a fashion styli...
00:06:22 2021-03-16
Just like any muscle that gets weaker when you don’t use it, we’re all rusty and awkward when it comes to talking with other people.Tip today isn’t any specific social skill. It’s simply this... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm...
00:07:48 2021-03-15
In honor of today being the first work day since daylight savings time began, I’m sharing three strategies that will help you minimize the aftershocks of moving the clocks forward a full hour in one night. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megapho...
00:08:35 2021-03-12
There are many obstacles to creating and assimilating new habits that help us become better people. I mean, of course, otherwise we would all be walking around as the best possible version of ourselves and wouldn’t that be grand? Here's how to deal with...
00:06:07 2021-03-11
You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. Which means that in order to really cement in a new habit, it helps to reward yourself and savor every benefit you notice that it does to beat yourself up. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaph...
00:16:39 2021-03-10
Today I’m interviewing Dr. Suzanne Steinbaum, a New York City cardiologist, and author of Dr. Suzanne Steinbaum’s Heart Book: Every Woman’s Guide to a Heart-Healthy Life. Suzanne has been on helping her patients prioritize their own health by buildi...
00:06:33 2021-03-09
How do you actually remember to do a new habit? And hold yourself accountable for doing it even when it's inconvenient? The truth is that what you track improves, because what you focus on grows. So here's how to track your new habit. Learn more about yo...
00:06:31 2021-03-08
There is a way to make creating a new habit a lot easier and a lot less of a cognitive lift--and that is by linking the new thing you want to do to some existing habit that’s already ingrained in your brain. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit meg...
00:05:39 2021-03-05
Trying to become better is not a reason for feeling bad about yourself. You will mess up. You will backslide. You will completely forget. And it is OK. All you need to do is simply start again. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoic...